By Lee Hana, Newsen
Singer Lyn looked back on the difficult times she faced after marrying Lee Soo.
Recently, a video titled “Lyn: Finding Freedom from People’s Gazes” was released on the channel ‘피디씨 by PDC’.
In the video, Lyn shared,
“I don’t have a good image. I feel good when I perform, but people say it doesn’t feel genuine. At first, it was really stressful to hear that. I found myself thinking, ‘Why? I’m just being me.’ I was misunderstood as someone who pretends to be cheerful. I’m not sure exactly what the issue is, but when they called me superficial, it hurt.”
When asked when those feelings began, Lyn explained,
“From around 2004 to 2005, when I was just starting out, people thought it was strange when I said silly things on TV, but they also said I was cute because I was such a fresh face. I was young back then. After that, although my songs were serious, my personality was a bit light, which I think made people feel a distance between me and my music. I often heard comments like ‘Just stick to singing.’”
As she reflected on how marriage might have made things a bit more challenging, Lyn resonated with the comments about how her expressions were often misrepresented. She recalled,
“At that time, I was very much a target for criticism. Anything I posted on social media drew those kinds of articles. It became scary to express myself. Someone even said, ‘Then just don’t use social media.’ But I didn’t want to. I like documenting my life. I’m a quiet attention-seeker, and my fans want to see what I share. Who else should I do this for?”
Lyn continued,
“My husband always felt sorry and uncomfortable because I was going through all this. He often apologized to me, which, in turn, made me feel sorry for him. It would have been fine if I just stayed quiet, but I ended up stirring up trouble. I just wanted to clarify what wasn’t true, but looking back now, I think I wanted to fight and win, which wasn’t helpful for either of us. Only a small number of people were concerned about those issues, but now I realize I was wrong. I’ve learned to pause and keep quiet, and now I understand what it means when people say, ‘Time heals all wounds.’ I feel a lot more at ease.”
She added,
“In the past, I would wonder, ‘Is it okay to talk about this? Will it hurt my husband?’ Now, I don’t feel uncomfortable at all because I believe that people on the other side understand what I’m saying. I’m aware of what people who dislike me feel. There are people who make my blood boil, but there are also those who don’t, which is why I continue to sing and my husband and I keep living together. I focus on the positive and think that as long as I exclude the negative, we can move forward without any discomfort.”
Lee Soo faced a prosecution deferral for charges related to soliciting prostitution as a social service worker in 2009. Lyn married Lee Soo in 2014 and, in 2016, revealed through her blog that she was taking legal action against malicious comments, stating,
“My husband did something wrong, and I’m not denying that entirely. However, there were defamatory statements, insults against my parents that I could hardly repeat, and derogatory remarks about a hypothetical child that haven’t even been born yet, which necessitated legal support.”
In 2019, after continued hurtful comments concerning her husband, Lyn expressed her frustration, stating,
“I’m not asking you all to forget or forgive. I’ve never even thought about such things, but when I comment, I want to clarify that it’s not true I ignored him being confined for six months. Prostitution is a fact, but there are so many false claims surrounding it. I used to not care if I didn’t see or read the comments, but after reading them, I found it upsetting to just let it go. It must be exhausting to know unnecessary details about someone else’s life. On days like these, I really dislike my job. I’m sorry, but I hope everyone ends their day happily.”